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Thoughts Inspired by Braving the Wilderness by Brene Brown

June 22, 2018
By Pastor Sherri Meyer-Veen

Parts of this book will irritate people AND there are parts of this book everyone needs to hear!  I want to thank the author, Brene Brown, for eloquently putting into words backed by research a poignant and timely message for our polarized society of high social anxiety.  She writes courageously and vulnerably.  Be warned, she swears and rants and also tells some powerful stories.  When I first read parts of this book, I thought about all of the places where systems of which I am a part are stuck in echo chambering, polarization, inability to listen or hear, inability to nuance, and dehumanizing behavior.  One place is in our denominational conversations about sexuality, I thought, “the Reformed Church in America needs to hear this!” and I cheered when I heard our interim General Secretary (as I watched the streaming) read portions of this book in his speech to the General Synod.

As the subtitle “the quest for true belonging and the courage to stand alone” suggests, the book establishes the need we all have to belong and explains that our journey to belong starts inward, not outward.  When we open ourselves in vulnerability to others, drop our defenses, truly listen with curiosity, learn to hold the pain and joy of others, refuse to accept the false dichotomies and polarizations, and speak our nuanced understandings amidst the pressure we will create the kind of society in which we all want to be a part.  It will not be easy.  We will all have to “brave our own wildernesses” to get there, as we each do our own work so that we can collectively create communities of true belonging. 

Brown dismantles the inappropriate and unfulfilling ways we have been going about searching for belonging.  This includes through “common enemy intimacy” where we are bonded through hating the same things.  This and other “sorting” behaviors where we spread fear, anxiety, and common animosity leave us more disconnected and lonely and creates false community.

This is just a taste of a rich book, full of wisdom.  We will be using parts of it during our summer series on “Belonging” along with the Heidelberg catechism, scripture, and other sources. 

Why am I sharing this on the church blog?  Because we at the Schoharie Reformed Church have done a lot of really good work at creating a community of true belonging, marked by authenticity and vulnerability for several years now.  We are a diverse community that welcomes all.  We recognize Christ as our unity and recognize diversity of perspectives as a gift within our midst.  We are not perfect.  We will disappoint.  We will get hurt, angry and frustrated with each other at times, however, we are committed to gospel ministry in and with each other in “Living in Love and Growing in God.”  This means we work at working it out.  This means we believe we are better together.  This means that we sometimes agree to disagree on really “big” issues.  The difference is that we keep the conversations going, we keep working together, we keep listening, we keep sharing, we keep respecting each other and seeking the best for each other.  Some argue that this is not possible to hold tension on the “big issues,” that we are somehow weak, or that we do not stand for anything.  We say back, “YES IT IS POSSIBLE!”  It is hard work!  It is relational work! Christ and the greatest commandment are our core identity.  As we see it, this is good news for our community and the world.  This is gospel ministry.  We invite you to come join the good hard work!           

Take a Break

August 15, 2016
By Michaela Johnson, Day Camp Director & Summer Youth Ministry Intern

There's a reason why soccer games have halftime. Even professional athletes can't go that long without resting and rehydrating. After 45 minutes of constant action, they need to slow down and recharge. Sometimes, it's an opportunity for them to develop a new game plan; other times, it's just a few minutes of laying down on the field and catching their breath. Either way, they take a break.

I have a Type A personality, no questions about it. I'm constantly busy, oftentimes overwhelmed by everything I have going on in my life. Classes. Work. Clubs. Church. Friends. Family. I have a really hard time saying "no" when asked if I can add one more thing to my schedule.

This summer, one of my goals was to improve my ability to turn down some opportunities in order to decrease my stress level. I've gotten better, but I'm still struggling. ("Yes" just seems so much easier sometimes!) However, in my growth, I have come to realize that part of why I keep getting burned out is because I never stop going, going, going. I barely ever take time away from my normal routine to just relax.

So I took a break.

For 8 days, I traveled back to the city where I attend college to spend time with my church family and friends in the area. In all honesty, I wasn't able to completely ignore all responsibilities like I had hoped. I still checked my e-mail, studied for my GRE, and visited a potential graduate school. But, I did spend most of the time doing things that I enjoyed.

I ate dessert before dinner. I walked around the mall, simply because I was desperate for air conditioning. I watched a meteor shower at 2:00am, and then went back to watch the sunset from the same place that evening. I read over 20 cards in the Hallmark store, just for fun. I watched the Olympics for more hours than I probably should have. I could go on, but I'll spare you the rest of the details.

Today is my first day back to work. While I'm struggling to stay focused, I feel so rested. In my time away, I developed a new game plan and caught my breath. Just like soccer players, we all need to take a break. There's a few weeks left of summer. How are you going to make sure you take a break?

"And Jesus said to them, 'Come with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.'" Mark 6:31

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